Ben Affleck And JLo: What A Therapist Thinks Probably Happened After The Couple Rekindled

Ben Affleck And JLo: What A Therapist Thinks Probably Happened After The Couple Rekindled

As a long-time fan who has followed their love story since the ‘Bennifer’ days, it’s heartbreaking to see Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez’s relationship come to an end once again. I can’t help but feel like a hopeless romantic caught in a tragic love saga.


It appears that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are moving towards ending their marriage. Following reports of a separation this past summer, those speculations eventually proved accurate last month.

Initially, when Affleck and Lopez reunited, it seemed like a fairy-tale romance for fans; however, their second chance at love now seems to have some lingering issues from their past. This has left many wondering exactly what transpired between them.

A therapist, Landis Bejar, who hasn’t worked with the specific couple, shared insights with Business Insider about potential factors in their situation. Some speculate that they reconciled to find resolution from their past relationship. Bejar proposes that if closure isn’t achieved, it’s possible to view a failed relationship positively in retrospect. She elaborated…

Looking back at the past, even though you understand why it came to an end, there’s a chance you might see it through a nostalgic lens, glossing over its imperfections and focusing on the good aspects. In other words, you tend to remember it in a more idealized or romantic manner than how it truly was.

According to Bejar, Affleck and Lopez might not have taken the time to understand why their relationship ended initially and how each of them may have played a part in it. Consequently, the problems that caused the separation resurfaced, leading the couple back to the same predicament. Bejar went on to explain…

If you haven’t thoroughly examined your role and theirs in the breakdown of the relationship, there’s a chance you might unknowingly repeat similar patterns in future relationships.

According to Bejar, while seeking closure may be a desirable aim, there’s a common misunderstanding that it necessitates the involvement of the other person. However, Bejar explains that closure is more about coming to terms with the end of the relationship, comprehending why it ended, and ultimately moving forward – none of which requires reaching out or reconnecting with the former partner. In essence, Bejar suggests that closure can be achieved independently.

Often, we yearn for those wrap-up discussions, the post-event analysis of what transpired. However, the idea of closure being a necessity involves the other person participating. What I mentioned earlier can be achieved individually as well. Therapy provides an ideal setting for personal exploration and growth in this regard.

It seems neither Ben Affleck nor Jennifer Lopez have made any public comments regarding their divorce, which leaves us in the dark about how much closure might have influenced their relationship’s end. Notably, it was J-Lo who filed for divorce without a legal representative, but whether this implies she initiated the split is uncertain.

Regardless of whether the recent breakup shares similar causes as their previous one or if it’s due to fresh issues, what both sets of fans wish for now is that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez find resolution and can ultimately move forward in a positive manner.

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2024-09-03 17:37