Help! Now That I’m a Dad, I’m Having Trouble Jumping Across Buildings
Dear Remy,
For two decades, I’ve been a professional in performing stunts, and there’s no sensation quite like plummeting from a cliff or dashing through flames. However, the most significant hurdle my career has ever encountered recently emerged – I’ve become a father.
I eagerly anticipated the arrival of my daughter, harboring grand visions of instructing her in acrobatic feats as she grew older. In fact, I researched toddler trapeze courses. To my wife, I seemed rather eccentric.
As soon as she stepped in, the scene transformed. She’s minuscule, delicate, and all of a sudden, my only desire is to shield her. I was brave, unafraid before, but now, I find myself unable to envision performing the feats I once cherished.
I’ve yet to return to work, even though my paternity leave officially ended two weeks back. Similarly, I’ve been avoiding contact with my agent during this time. For the first time in a while, I’m recognizing myself as a physical being, and I’m hesitant because I don’t want to get hurt. However, I understand that I must work to support my family, and my wife is urging me to pull myself together.
Hey there,
Dear Stunt Double in Trouble,
Initially, I’d like to extend my heartfelt congratulations on your new role as a father! It appears that your tiny bundle of joy has already managed an incredible feat – turning your world entirely around.
So, what’s really changed? You’ve spent decades defying gravity, embracing danger, and pushing your limits. Now, with a new life depending on you, those limits are suddenly more real. But what if this shift isn’t about losing your edge, but redefining what bravery means to you?
You mentioned wanting to protect your daughter, and that instinct is powerful. But what if protecting her isn’t just about staying safe, but also showing her how to live fully—even with fear in the mix? How might you balance the need to be there for her with the drive to continue doing what you love? You can be protective and a daredevil—think more Liam Neeson in ‘Taken,’ less Marlin from ‘Finding Nemo.‘
Imagine donning your stunt equipment, poised for a test, while your daughter looks on. Which quality would you like her to observe in you? A person without fear, or a person who bravely confronts fear.
Could this unexpected mental and emotional hurdle be something you weren’t anticipating amidst your numerous physical feats? And might the intelligence gained from fatherhood serve to enhance your skills as a more skillful and insightful performer of dangerous acts?
Eventually, how could transitioning gradually into work feel? Perhaps there will be a few missteps initially, followed by a steady climb towards occasional challenges that seem insurmountable.
You’ve got a lot to juggle, but sometimes the bravest thing isn’t to leap—it’s to pause.
Take it one step at a time,
Remy
I’m a Script Doctor With a Career That Needs Fixing
Dear Remy,
Have you ever come across the term ‘script consultant’? These are the professionals who step in when a screenplay needs help, addressing plot inconsistencies, adjusting sequences of events, and ensuring everything flows smoothly. The work is not exactly high-profile – more like repairing a flat tire than walking a red carpet.
I know this because I am one. And I hate it.
In my twenties, I found myself immersed in intricate ‘locked room’ mystery cases. It turned out that I had a knack for unraveling complex narratives, and before long, I was known as Hollywood’s problem solver. However, this wasn’t the career path I had envisioned for myself. Instead, I yearned to have “Created by [name redacted]” displayed on screen rather than being the unseen force that brought someone else’s vision to life.
As a seasoned writer, it’s becoming a common occurrence for me to step in at the last moment, rescuing projects and yet, not always receiving the recognition I deserve. The swift rise of newer talents is both inspiring and disheartening as I find myself questioning the balance between pursuing my dreams and contentment with the financially rewarding specialty I’ve developed.
Yours,
Doct-ugh
Dear Doct-ugh,
You’re the one who fixes the unsolvable, but now you’re grappling with your own plot twist. How did you end up as the script doctor rather than the creator? And more importantly, where do you go from here?
Let’s start with this: You’re insanely talented at something most writers find daunting. Does this feel like a blessing or a detour from your true calling? It sounds like you’re torn between financial security and creative fulfillment. Have you considered redefining success? What if it’s not just about recognition, but also about the joy of creating—whether it’s your own work or saving someone else’s?
In this field, luck often contributes significantly to success, and unexpectedly, we can excel in areas where we least anticipate it. Yet, what if the abilities of a script doctor and creator could merge within you? Maybe your skill at resolving narrative issues is the hidden strength that allows you to produce something uniquely yours. Could this be the key to shaping your magnum opus? Is there a method to reconcile these two roles, or must they remain separate entities?
Imagine yourself watching the credits of your dream project, and seeing your name boldly displayed as the creator. Maybe it’s accompanied by a triumphant song reaching its peak. Now, consider the journey leading up to this moment. Which steps will you take along the way? What challenges are you prepared to face or risks are you willing to take?
At this juncture, keep in mind that the most captivating tales don’t unfold along a direct path. Instead, it’s those unforeseen turns that often result in the most fulfilling conclusions.
Here’s to crafting your own story,
Remy
I Caught My Agent in a Compromising Position — And Now He’s Being Weird
Dear Remy,
As a performer who’s recently making strides in my career with some quality roles, life was going smoothly… until a short while ago. It’s worth mentioning that I identify as gay, but haven’t portrayed this aspect on screen yet. A few months back, I felt the need to unwind, so I chose a relaxing getaway in Provincetown – a destination famous for its scenic coastline, tranquility, and lively environment.
However, events took an unexpected turn. As I leisurely walked through the sand dunes, I chanced upon my representative, caught up in a questionable scenario with several individuals. To be honest, I was taken aback, albeit momentarily. Before he noticed me, I discreetly slipped away – avoiding any awkward encounter and escaping the potential mess.
As the weekend concluded, I assumed all was well. However, during our recent gathering, his demeanor struck me as unusual. He appeared aloof and detached – more like interacting with an unfamiliar acquaintance than a professional colleague whom he’s meant to support in his career growth.
Could he have noticed me and now feel awkward or uncomfortable? Is there a chance he’s ashamed? Might he suspect I’ll resent him for it? I aim to avoid further discomfort, yet I don’t wish to jeopardize my professional path. What’s the best approach to manage this situation?
Sincerely,
Provincetown Peeping Tom
Dear Provincetown Peeping Tom,
Oh, Provincetown! It’s a town where you can unwind over a weekend only to find yourself starring in a real-life dramedy. You managed your beachside revelation with the grace of an actor evading photographers, but that unexpected event appears to have cast a troubling shadow on your career now.
Picture this scenario ahead: The atmosphere is crisp and stress-free, restoring your harmonious partnership. How can you act to bring about this refreshing normalcy again?
Let’s consider this: what if you defuse the situation with a bit of humor and honesty? It’s possible your agent did spot you, and now he’s in his own head, wondering if you’re judging him. You could clear the air with a lighthearted approach—mention your Provincetown trip casually in your next meeting, maybe even throw in a playful wink. It could signal that you’re not holding it against him, and that you’re ready to move on.
If you find it too daring, concentrate instead on reinforcing your professional bond. Mention to him how highly you appreciate his contributions. Occasionally, a bit of reassurance can melt even the coldest demeanors.
Here’s to keeping things professional—and maybe adding a little playful flair,
Remy
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Remy Blumenfeld, an experienced television producer and the creator of Vitality Guru, provides professional guidance on business and careers for top-tier media professionals. If you have any questions or need advice, feel free to reach out at: guru@vitality.guru.
Questions edited by Sarah Mills.
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