“Dear Remy”: Hollywood Career Coach on Playing It Straight, Finding Space and Conquering Bluesky

“Dear Remy”: Hollywood Career Coach on Playing It Straight, Finding Space and Conquering Bluesky

Help! I Can’t Stop Scouting!

As someone who’s spent a significant part of my life immersed in the whirlwind of show business, I can certainly empathize with the actor grappling with this conundrum. The world of acting is a fascinating labyrinth where truth and fiction often intertwine, and it takes a deft hand to navigate these complexities without losing oneself in the process.

Dear Remy,

I literally can’t go anywhere without thinking in terms of cinematography.

It’s not a weird obsession though (at least I don’t think it is)—I’m a location scout. I’ve been to every continent on the globe—and once even got chased by an angry bearded seal in the Arctic. I managed to fend him off with my telescopic tripod. That’s not a euphemism.

However, I find myself captivated by gazing at horizons and contemplating wide-angle compositions, as well as considering the proximity of the closest Barry’s Boot Camp for our fitness-conscious colleagues. Regrettably, my companions seem to be growing tired of this.

I’ll no longer have company on my journeys, and during our last cross-country road trip to visit our parents in Tacoma with my sister, she asked me for silence before we set off, which lasted only an hour. At my cousin’s wedding, instead of dancing, I opted to explore the barn looking for a romantic scene, and the best man discovered me hiding behind a stack of hay bales, experimenting with camera angles using my phone.

It’s become clear to me that I haven’t taken a proper holiday in the past seven years, and I’m starting to wonder if my challenging nature during travel could be the reason.

Hi Remy, it seems like your enthusiasm for your work is unwavering, and you always give it your best. However, I wonder if there’s a hint from your loved ones that perhaps you should tone things down a bit?

Yours,

Vocation: Location

Dear Vocation: Location,

Your talent for spotting cinematic possibilities everywhere is quite remarkable, but it’s getting a bit out of hand. You’re like the person who insists on bringing spreadsheets to a picnic – too focused on your craft, possibly missing out on some simple joy and spontaneity.

How about rephrasing it as:

Instead of sticking to the usual sightseeing tours, why not experience something engaging like taking a cooking class or snorkeling – it’s challenging to explore a location when you’re underwater trying to avoid jellyfish! If nothing else works, think about going on a trip with movie enthusiasts who enjoy your insights on excellent composition. Somewhere out there is a travel companion who’d be thrilled to experiment camera angles with you.

From my scenic backdrop to yours,

Remy

“Dear Remy”: Hollywood Career Coach on Playing It Straight, Finding Space and Conquering Bluesky

I’m Still Trying to Figure Out MySpace. Now I Have to Learn Bluesky?

Dear Remy,

Last year I turned 50 years old, but that’s not the problem I need to talk to you about.

The problem is that all my friends in the industry are moving from X/Twitter to Bluesky… and I simply cannot bear to wrap my head around yet another social media platform.

I’m not contesting the reasoning for their actions; instead, I find myself unable to handle the added responsibility of a new website URL, account login details, profile configuration, and unique lingo specific to that platform due to my advanced age.

Just yesterday, I was wrapping my head around the distinction between “quote tweeting” and regular “retweeting.” Meanwhile, my daughter recently enlightened me that Instagram’s “Stories” are not literal tales being spun by individuals; they’re actually referred to as vlogs. To avoid confusion, it’s essential to know that blogs and vlogs aren’t the same – while you can upload a blog with a browser, a Bluetooth connection would suffice too, but a BBL has nothing to do with internet jargon; it stands for something entirely different in the realm of cosmetic surgery.

Hey Remy, it feels like time is whizzing by faster than ever before, doesn’t it? Back in the day, as a TV host, I had a clear understanding of our role – we were responsible for creating content, and that content either aired on a national network or a cable channel. That was pretty much the extent of it.

As a dedicated user, is there an option for me to bypass this recent wave of migration away from social media, or could choosing to ignore Bluesky potentially harm my professional standing?

Yours,
Overwhelmed In The Cloud

Dear Overwhelmed,

Social media sites resemble fashionable hangout spots – they constantly appear, offering an air of exclusivity and positive energy. However, many of us often find ourselves yearning to return to the familiar comfort of our trusted digital watering holes.

The real question is: what value does social media bring to you? If you’re not getting joy or meaningful connection out of it, why force yourself to keep up with every trend? Your audience loves you for your on-screen charisma, not your proficiency with hashtags or because you know that the “Bold Glamour” filter is SOOOO 2023.

If you concentrate on the platforms where you genuinely like or can at least bear, people tend to respond better to sincerity rather than automated systems.

Finally, skywriting isn’t a bad idea. A bold “Watch My Show!” over Times Square might be just the sort of analog stunt this digital age needs.

With good vibes from whichever part of the internet you choose to read this,
Remy

I’m a Gay Actor But Keep Getting Cast in Straight Roles. What’s Wrong with Me?

Dear Remy,

I’m a gay actor who keeps getting cast as dashing, heterosexual romantic leads.

I’ve always found comfort in maintaining honesty, and I must admit, it presents an exciting test for my abilities. Whether it’s a Regency nobleman professing affection under a blooming gazebo laden with peonies, or a bold business mogul, I manage to pull it off convincingly.

The predicament I find myself in: I’ve recently gained a massive global fanbase with this high-profile role (just another straight man), and it leaves me feeling… remorseful. Women from every continent are fans of mine now – my team has shown me the chat rooms and TikTok comments. Somehow, I feel as though I’ve misled them all, and their affection for me might be built on falsehoods.

I’ve made no secret of my identity – I’m openly gay and in a fulfilling relationship with my partner. However, I haven’t gone around broadcasting it on a grand scale, like putting up a billboard that reads, “I’M NOT STRAIGHT.

What should I do?

Yours,
Confused By My Fan Club

Dear Confused,

Performing is a talent that enables you to breathe life into tales and stir deep feelings within others. The adoration your audience holds for you isn’t about the individual you are – it’s more about the magical world you assist in crafting.

As a gamer, I get it. Fantasy does have its own reality. Your fans aren’t simply hanging out with you while you solve puzzles or answer emails; they’re living the drama as they watch you bring characters like the charming finance guy or the intense Darcy-like persona to life on screen. The entertainment industry has had its fair share of queer men portraying straight roles, just look at those ’90s boy bands! But we’re in a time now where people are freer to express themselves more authentically. You’ve stepped out of the closet in real life, and that’s what truly matters.

Is it possible for you to savor this moment of disconnection without feelings of guilt? Remember, you’re not misleading anyone; you’re fulfilling your responsibilities, and doing so exceptionally well that you serve as an inspiration. When the time arrives for a role that truly resonates with who you are, you’ll captivate audiences in a breathtaking manner. Until then, I don’t believe it’s necessary to start saving money for an advertisement campaign just yet.

Sending you good wishes for a growing and open-minded fan base,
Remy

***

Remy Blumenfeld, an experienced television producer and the creator of Vitality Guru, provides professional guidance on business and careers for top-tier media personnel. If you have any questions or requests, please direct them to: guru@vitality.guru.

Questions edited by Sarah Mills.

Read More

Sorry. No data so far.

2024-12-14 21:25